Other Books I Recommend
If you enjoy my book, you might like these, too, by friends and colleagues.
Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens, Assuming the Ecosexual Position
The story of the artistic collaboration between the originators of the ecosex movement, their diverse communities, and the Earth. In 2008, Annie Sprinkle and Beth Stephens married the Earth, which set them on the path to explore the realms of ecosexuality. Assuming the Ecosexual Position describes how the two came together as lovers and collaborators, how they took a stand against homophobia and xenophobia, and how this union led to the miraculous conception of the Love Art Laboratory.
We were not prepared for #metoo when it blew up Twitter in October 2017. In many ways, we still aren’t. We live in a society that confines survivors to silence. Our only avenues to address harm do little to prevent its recurrence. Trapped within a binary of silence or punishment, it’s no wonder so many of us remain frozen in place even as the disclosures continue. We intuit—correctly—that we have some kind of responsibility when harm happens among those we care about, but what is it? Combining behavioral neuroscience and insights from those on the frontlines of harm intervention, Disrupting the Bystander helps us break out of paralysis so that we can best support those we love—whether they were hurt or hurt someone else.
Barbara Carrellas, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty First Century
With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, no matter one’s gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes. Urban Tantra expands the notions of pleasure and opens new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.
Barbara Carrellas, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide
Ecstasy is the human reset button. It shakes you up, reboots your system, and opens your eyes to a whole new world of possibilities. Ecstasy introduces you to your deepest, most authentic self, while simultaneously offering freedom, intimacy, connection, and spiritual awakening. In this book, you’ll dive deep into the world of ecstatic experience, beginning with the medium through which most people experience ecstasy–sex. However, this is much more than your typical sex book; it is an exploration of the entire erotic self and the infinite possibilities of ecstatic expression.
Caffyn Jesse, Intimacy Educator: Teaching Through Touch
It is your birthright to live a life filled with erotic joy. This book will show you how to make it so, and how to teach others, through touch. You will learn about sacred intimacy, sexual healing, erotic energy cultivation, and sensual and erotic massage. Chapters on orgasm coaching will explain how to expand orgasmic capacities. Powerful practices guide you in awakening the full potential of your sexuality. Teaching through touch can provide an ideal environment for healing and learning about eros and intimacy. But without appropriate safeguards and clear boundaries, practitioners can traumatize already wounded people. Caffyn Jesse offers vital guidance on the ethics of practice.
Caffyn Jesse, Science for Sexual Happiness
This book shows how new scientific understandings of the brain and nervous system can guide us in creating expanded sexual happiness. With accessible theory, real-life stories, and over 100 evidence-based practices, you will learn to unwind the effects of trauma and neglect, and feel safer in your skin, use neuroplasticity to feel more pleasure, create a ‘sexual happiness feedback loop’ with your own neurochemistry, understand genital anatomy and sexual reflexes, explore the science of sex and spirit, and more.
Caffyn Jesse, Elements of Intimacy: The Dance of Loving Connection
“In support of a beautiful, co-created relational world, I am offering a cornucopia of free resources to play with. This is a body of work I have have been developing over the last dozen years, which I am calling “Elements of Intimacy”. As a teacher and practitioner of sacred intimacy, I have discovered that whenever people feel safe-enough within themselves, or with others, they tune into an unstoppable longing. We want love endlessly and enormously, and we know our capacity for endless and enormous love. I have met and felt this boundless desire in every human soul I have ever touched. ”
Experience eight unforgettable nights of sensual activities specifically developed to make you a better lover. Expand your capacity to enjoy pleasure, deepen your connection with your partner, and learn to satisfy one another fully. Step into Eight Erotic Nights. The seductive activities within each of the eight nights show you and your partner how to use erotic conversations, sensual breathing and kissing, seductive massage, and more to understand and fulfill each other’s sexual needs and desires.
Justin Hancock, Can We Talk About Consent?
Can We Talk About Consent? breaks down the basics of how to give and get consent in every aspect of life for readers aged 14 years and older. It’s a powerful word, but not everyone understands exactly what it means. This stylish guide explains clearly why consent matters–for all of us. With honest explanations by experienced sex and relationships educator Justin Hancock, you’ll learn how consent is a vital part of how we connect with ourselves and our self-esteem, the people close to us, and the wider world.
Kelly Bryson, Don’t Be Nice, Be Real
A lively, light approach to a deadly serious subject-our lives. It combines humor, radical wisdom, and new culture spirituality to teach the mechanics and spirit of Nonviolent Compassionate Communication to cure “Niceitis,” a hereditary disease. This book takes us from behind the wall of culturally conditioned niceness, providing us with the tools we need for self-responsible, non-judgmental, clear and conscious honesty.
A friendly guide through the complicated – and often contradictory – advice that’s given about sex and gender, monogamy and conflict, break-up and commitment. It asks questions about the rules of love, such as which to choose from all the rules on offer? Do we stick to the old rules we learnt growing up, or do we try something new and risk being out on our own? And what about the times when the rules we love by seem to make things worse, rather than better? This book considers how the rules are being ‘rewritten’ in various ways, giving you the power to find an approach that best fits your situation.
Meg-John Barker and Justin Hancock, Finally! Helpful Sex Advice!
Not your typical sex advice guide… This friendly guide takes a radical approach: it puts your experience at the heart of the book, and invites you to explore what might be enjoyable to you. Written in an engaging and thoughtful style, it challenges the messages we receive about `normal’ sex; looks at how to understand and care for yourself; delves into ideas of pleasure for different bodies, ages and tastes; explores relationships; and tackles the tricky topics of communication and consent. So, throw out the rule book and learn to listen to your own desires.
Meg-John Barker and Jules Scheele, Sexuality: A Graphic Guide
With compassion, humour, erudition and a touch of the erotic, Meg-John Barker and Jules Scheele shine a light through the darkness and unmask the monsters in this illustrated guide. From sexual identities to having sex, to desire, consent and relationships, we’ll explore the invention of sex as we know it and imagine sex as it could be. Along the way, we’ll move past thinking of sex as meaning just one thing, defined by the genders of those doing it, instead making space for lots of different types of attraction, desire, relationship and act.
From ornately decorative to excruciatingly stringent, Japanese rope bondage is an art which has developed over centuries of martial and erotic practice. Now, accomplished Japanese-born educator and bondage practitioner, Midori shows step by step how to achieve beautiful and exciting Japanese bondage on a variety of genders and body types.
Pete Wallis and Thalia Wallis, Talking Consent: 16 Workshops on Relationship and Sex Education for Schools and other Youth Settings
This book provides teachers and parents with the ‘need-to-knows’ to educate groups of young people about consent, pornography, sexting and many other related topics, as well as giving them the tools to ward themselves against abusive behaviour. Initiating a discussion with young people on topics around sex can seem daunting, but Talking Consent is full of lesson plans, workshops and creative ideas for introducing and promoting constructive discussions around these areas – while also dispelling common myths, and giving appropriate answers to difficult questions that may arise from these discussions. [One of the lessons is about the Wheel of Consent!]
Sheri Winston, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure
Women have a largely unknown network of structures responsible for arousal and orgasm that even most medical professionals don’t know about. This leaves women trying to discover their sexual potential without accurate guides. Sheri Winston has put the missing pieces together, creating the first-ever accurate, integrated maps of women’s anatomy and sexuality. This fun, sexy, empowering guide combines lost knowledge with ancient and modern sexuality information to illuminate every woman’s secret paths to fabulous, orgasmically abundant sex.
Sheri Winston, with Carl Frankel, Succulent Sexcraft: Your Hands-on Guide to Erotic Play and Practice
Visionary yet practical, Succulent SexCraft offers a detailed road map to supercharging your erotic life and becoming sexually whole and empowered. With its wealth of ideas, practices and games, you’ll be able to access extraordinary pleasure, overcome challenges and learn to play masterfully with your inner ‘sexcraft’ toolkit. It’s your personal guide to developing a healthy, celebratory and ecstatic relationship with your sexuality.
Sinclair Sexsmith, editor, Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year, Volumn 5
The fifth volume of the Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year anthology series explores and expands on the very definition of eroticism with a diverse mix of queer, non-binary, trans, and polyamorous #ownvoices that will have you quivering with delight and wondering what more you can explore—no matter how you identify. More than just steamy sex stories, this volume offers the quiet sexuality of emotional security, the overwhelming thrill of discovering something new, and a tale for every taste—from vanilla to kink, to strap-ons and sodomy.
Veronica Monet, Sex Secrets of Escorts
My friend Veronica Monet, a former escort, is now the owner at Shame Free Zone, and an advocate for people to learn joy, empowerment, and great sex. These days she’s working on a new book.
“After nearly 15 years of being an expensive escort, Veronica Monet shares her secrets in this intimate, funny, no-holds-barred sex guide based upon her years in the world’s oldest profession. Veronica Monet’s Sex Secrets of Escorts is a must-have for any woman interested in enriching the sex life she shares with her partner.”