Extra notes about Chapter 26: Consent
in the book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.
Other notes are found here.
Quotes
Learning to express verbally can be challenging for those of us who have used silence as a survival skill.
– Amrita Grace, Reclaiming Aphrodite, The Journey to Sexual Wholeness
It’s more fun to talk with someone who doesn’t use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like “What about lunch?”
– Winnie the Pooh
Some of us are well-trained in accommodation, appeasement and taking care. Feeling into who and how we are inside takes practice.
– Caffyn Jesse
Books
What Does Consent Really Mean? for young people, by Joseph Watkins and Thalia Williams. These folks are developing a workbook of exercises that can be done in classrooms, and are including the Wheel of Consent in it.
Can We Talk about Consent?: A Book about Freedom, Choices, and Agreement, by Justin Hancock, for young people (teens), Justin is a frequent collaborator with Meg-John Barker.
Ask: Building Consent Culture, an anthology edited by Kitty Stryker
Rewriting the Rules, by Meg-John Barker – or anything by Meg-John, including this free downloadable Consent Checklist.
Or just enter “consent” in the search bar on the bookshop website, and you’ll get a bunch.
Other Resources
Marcia B, at askingforwhatyouwant.com, is one of the best consent teachers anywhere. She’s got lots of good free stuff on her website, with a more practical approach than mine.
Another is Meg-John Barker, above, at rewriting-the-rules.com. They, too, have a number of free resources.