Extra notes about Chapter 9 – Lesson 3: The Serve-Accept Dynamic
in the book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent.
Other notes are found here.
The Accepting Quadrant
One of the things I love getting from my wife, Carlin, is to lay in her lap and have my scalp rubbed. This is one, wonderful, safe harbor. I don’t need to have sex in order to have this need satisfied. I just have to ask for it. Here, I’m being touched deeply, accepted completely. I don’t have to perform or prove myself. I just must be willing to be deeply vulnerable.
– https://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/the-one-thing-men-want-more-than-sex-wcz/
The Serving Quadrant
People need to be able to serve. This came to me when I was in a situation where I felt useless, and then there was a chance to do something that was useful. We need to be of use in the world.
– A student
Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire for that work has been put in every heart.
– Rumi
We are here on earth to help others. What the others are here for, I have no idea.
– WH Auden